Hey ya'll!
So, this week we talked about boundaries. It was actually very
interesting to see the different kinds such as
rigid ________ diffuse . . . . . and then normal _ _ _ _ _
The MOST interesting thing for me though, was on the last day when
we talked about the boundaries in families. It was really great to hear about what
is appropriate for boundaries between a mother and her child, a father and his child, or
parents and their child.
I LOVED hearing everyone's thoughts on why the boundary between the
mother and the father is it's own unit and then the child connects to that one
unit rather than having each individual have a boundary. Very interesting.
Some of my favorite thoughts, or, the thoughts that stuck out the most for me were:
a mother and father are a TEAM, the child will trust the parents more, the parents
need to work on their relationship with each other the most, and the influence
the parent's relationship has on the child - they will be more likely to have a good
relationship if their parents have a good relationship, and how the child will
feel more safe. Isn't that the whole point of being a parent? Don't you want your child to
feel safe and trusting? Don't you want your child to feel confident and like
they can just be themselves? I think some parents believe that the way to best
accomplish their goals is if they each go into their own area of expertise and handle
it separately - but that's false!!
It was a very interesting discussion.
